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July 9, 2011

ASS-umptions... Follow-up



From a couple of the comments I received on my original post yesterday, some thought it was odd that our landlord (whom I absolutely love to death) is/was wrong in disclosing that we are gay (to perspective tenants of the upstairs unit)... 

Please remember, we live in the "Commonwealth of Vagina", one of the most backwards, conservative, provincial, homophobic, and unchanging states in our union... The last thing we want is an intolerant bigot living upstairs (see photo above, we share spaces such as back yard, front yard, and our doors are like 16" apart and can you tell which is our's?), why would anyone want to have a neighbor that close (potentially an Anita Bryant relative) find out, only after moving in, that there are "sinners" living in the same house???

I suggested to our landlord when she goes through the interviewing process, that she might want to mention that the couple downstairs was gay. Otherwise I honestly don't think she would have... Besides, it makes it easier for us, we don't have to explain anything, including the loud moans (of a potential sexual nature) that may emanate through the 85 year old structure...

Call me proactive, lazy, or just plain scared to have to "come-out" to strangers, but it has worked for the past 3 tenants upstairs...

Over and "Out" from our little Gayborhood, here in Portsmouth, VA, USA

July 8, 2011

ASS-umptions...


I got caught up in an assumption yesterday and I wonder if people do the same about us... Our navy neighbors (Audrey's parents) got reassigned from Portsmouth, VA to Portsmouth, NH at the end of June. We will miss them dearly...

The new neighbors (He, she, and their 3yo daughter) are also military. The landlord informed us they were being transferred from San Diego with the US Coast Guard... For the first couple of days they were here, we welcomed them and had some neighborly chats, mostly regarding the arrival of their household belongings that were somewhere in limbo. They spent the first two nights at a local hotel...

My assumption: He is USCG and she is "the military wife"...  

The truth: She is active military, he is going to be attending school (he was also USCG but finished his stint). I had to admit to them that my assumption was entirely wrong (they said that was not unusual)...

Our landlord has been very forthcoming with any potential tenants for the upstairs. She lets them know up-front that there is a gay couple in the downstairs unit. That we take care of the basic yard work and have exclusive use of the driveway (all other parking is on-street)... I guess the parallel to my misguided assumption is: I wonder what these folks "think" before they meet us and get to know us? So far (with the exception of one tenant) we have all become great friends and neighbors...  But I still wonder what preconceived notions they may have had...

Ok, just a short post today, Over and "Out" from Portsmouth, VA, USA 

July 6, 2011

Something New: Six on the Sixth...


I am in the mood to try something new... As some may have already noticed, I changed the blog header from the patriotic banner to something more "summer-y"... I have noticed several of my blogging friends have started to participate in something called "Five on the Fifth", where they snap five photos prior to the 5th of each month, then post them on the fifth... Since I don't take a lot of pictures, I am going to start posting something called "Six on the Sixth". Rather than photos, I will be disclosing six little known facts about myself or my life each month on the 6th (just a brief little monthly "me-me")... So here goes the first in the "Six on the Sixth" series:


1.  My second toe (on both feet) is longer than my Big Toe..

2.  I now have small hairs popping up on my ear lobes...

3.  I was addicted to All My Children, One Life to Live, and General Hospital
     in my college years...

4.  I had a crush on both Karen and Richard Carpenter...

5.  I played little league baseball as a youth, and hated it...

6.  I was born the same year that Disneyland (yes the one in CA) opened...

These could be fun, and may get a little more graphic as I run out of things to list (my life is not all that different than your's), but I'll bet there are a few of my regular readers that might have some fun and interesting things to list on their own blogs for Six on the Sixth...

Over and "Out", from the Gayborhood, here is Portsmouth, VA, USA

July 5, 2011

More Reasons to Continue our need for Fossil Fuel...



An Exxon Mobil pipeline ruptured on Friday night about 150 miles downstream from Yellowstone National Park near the town of Laurel, Montana, just southwest of Billings, dumping an estimated 1,000 barrels, or 42,000 gallons, of crude oil into the flood-swollen river.

Toxic fumes from the oil overcame a number of people who reported breathing problems and dizziness and were taken to local hospitals. But state and federal officials on Tuesday said they lacked a tally of health problems or the number of riverside homes that were evacuated after the accident.

The spill also has wreaked havoc on ranching and farming operations along the Yellowstone, the longest river without a dam in the United States, which provides irrigation and drinking water for communities along its banks.

Jerry Williams, who raises livestock, wheat, alfalfa and hay on some 800 acres of land around Laurel, said high water from the river has washed oil across much of his property.

"It was the night the river peaked, so the river water was flooded all over the place, and that brought oil all over both ranches," he told Reuters. "All of our grasslands ... have just thick, black crude stuck to all the grass, trees, low lands."

Williams said his spring wheat crop and alfalfa are both in need of irrigation, but farmers in the area were advised not to take water from the river for the time being. Drinking supplies also are in limbo, he said.

"We get all our drinking water from our wells and for our animals," Williams said. "We don't know if we'll be able to use them since the river was high. All the groundwater, I assume, is probably contaminated. We just don't know."

Montana Governor Brian Schweitzer said on Tuesday he has told Exxon and federal agencies overseeing the spill response that the state alone will decide when the cleanup is done.

"The state of Montana is going to stay on this like the smell on a skunk," he told Reuters by telephone as he toured areas hit by the spill.

State and federal authorities had few answers to questions about the extent of oil pollution or the potential impacts on human health.

Environmental experts said it will likely take months, even years, for the ecosystem to rebound from the influx of crude.

"It will be unclear even next spring as to what kind of recovery has taken place," said Ronald Kendall, chairman of the department of environmental toxicology at Texas Tech University and head of its Institute of Environmental and Human Health.

"It's a very significant amount of oil moving downstream right now, and oil is a toxic substance in itself," he said. "A whole suite of organisms, from mink to herons to sturgeon to dragonflies, are going to be affected as waves of oil come through."

Concerns about petroleum contamination prompted downstream communities that rely on the river for drinking water to shut off their intake valves, but it was unclear whether residents who depend on well water had been urged to avoid drinking it.

Many state health and emergency workers had been told to direct inquiries about environmental contamination and health concerns to the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency. EPA officials said on Tuesday that readings were not yet available from air and water monitors mostly downstream of the spill.

Some Montana residents have reported symptoms ranging from shortness of breath to fainting spells linked to exposure to petroleum-based chemicals.

Stacy Anderson said on Tuesday her parents, Bob and Patty Castleberry, are still living in a hotel after their home was evacuated Saturday along the Yellowstone less than a mile from the site of the ruptured pipeline. She said her mother, who suffers from a respiratory condition, passed out several times even after the couple left the house.

"All their clothes, the suitcase -- everything smelled like solid crude oil; when my mom got away from it, her symptoms disappeared," Anderson said.

She said Exxon is paying her parents' hotel bill as well as covering the cost of feed for the couple's 10 goats that have been steered away from oil-soaked grasslands.

The cause of the rupture was under investigation, but possible damage from erosion caused by unusually heavy river flows following a spring of heavy rains and runoff from record mountain snows are likely to be examined as a factor.

Exxon shut down the pipeline in May after the city of Laurel raised safety concerns due to rising river levels, but the company said it restarted the line after conducting an inspection.

Shares of Exxon Mobil fell slightly on Tuesday on the New York Stock Exchange as investors worried about the bad publicity from the oil spill. Exxon said its Billings, Montana oil refinery cut back production over the weekend as a result of the spill but other refineries in the area were operating normally.

The Montana oil spill is far smaller than the BP oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico last year and the Exxon Valdez spill in Alaska in 1989. The BP spill spewed 168 million gallons of oil and the Exxon Valdez spilled 11 million gallons of crude oil. By contrast, Exxon estimates the Montana pipeline has leaked only (an estimated) 42,000 gallons of crude into the Yellowstone River.

All I can say is who is watching these guys?

Over and "Out" from Portsmouth, VA (which still prohibits offshore drilling), USA

July 4, 2011

Two-Hundred Thirty-five Years and Counting...



Happy Independence Day to the United States of America (July 4, 1776 - July 4, 2011)...

Over, "Out", and feeling a little Patriotic, from Portsmouth, VA, USA

July 3, 2011

Just in Case You Have Never Read it:





IN CONGRESS, July 4, 1776.


The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,

When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.--That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, --That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.--Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.

He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome
and necessary for the public good.

He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate
and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation
till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended,
he has utterly neglected to attend to them.

He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation
of large districts of people, unless those people would
relinquish the right of Representation in the Legislature,
a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.

He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual,
uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their
public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them
into compliance with his measures.

He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly,
for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the
rights of the people.

He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions,
to cause others to be elected; whereby the Legislative powers,
incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People
at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the
mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from
without, and convulsions within.

He has endeavoured to prevent the population of these States;
for that purpose obstructing the Laws for Naturalization
of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage
their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of
new Appropriations of Lands.

He has obstructed the Administration of Justice,
by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary powers.

He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone,
for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment
of their salaries.

He has erected a multitude of New Offices,
and sent hither swarms of Officers to harrass our people,
and eat out their substance.

He has kept among us, in times of peace,
Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures.

He has affected to render the Military independent of
and superior to the Civil power.

He has combined with others to subject us to
a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged
by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:

    For Quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:

    For protecting them, by a mock Trial, from punishment
    for any Murders which they should commit on the
    Inhabitants of these States:

    For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:

    For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent:

    For depriving us in many cases, of the benefits of Trial by Jury:

    For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences

    For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province,
    establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its
    Boundaries so as to render it at once an example
    and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:

    For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws,
    and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:

    For suspending our own Legislatures,
    and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate
    for us in all cases whatsoever.

He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his Protection
and waging War against us.

He has plundered our seas, ravaged our Coasts, burnt our towns,
and destroyed the lives of our people.

He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries
to compleat the works of death, desolation and tyranny,
already begun with circumstances of Cruelty &
perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages,
and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.

He has constrained our fellow Citizens taken Captive
on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country,
to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren,
or to fall themselves by their Hands.

He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us,
and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers,
the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare,
is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.

In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.

Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our Brittish brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.

We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in General Congress, Assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the Name, and by Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly publish and declare, That these United Colonies are, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as Free and Independent States, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which Independent States may of right do. And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.

The 56 signatures on the Declaration appear in the positions indicated:

Column 1

Georgia:
Button Gwinnett
Lyman Hall
George Walton

Column 2

North Carolina:
William Hooper
Joseph Hewes
John Penn

South Carolina:
Edward Rutledge
Thomas Heyward, Jr.
Thomas Lynch, Jr.
Arthur Middleton

Column 3

Massachusetts:
John Hancock

Maryland:
Samuel Chase
William Paca
Thomas Stone
Charles Carroll of Carrollton

Virginia:
George Wythe
Richard Henry Lee
Thomas Jefferson
Benjamin Harrison
Thomas Nelson, Jr.
Francis Lightfoot Lee
Carter Braxton

Column 4

Pennsylvania:
Robert Morris
Benjamin Rush
Benjamin Franklin
John Morton
George Clymer
James Smith
George Taylor
James Wilson
George Ross

Delaware:
Caesar Rodney
George Read
Thomas McKean

Column 5

New York:
William Floyd
Philip Livingston
Francis Lewis
Lewis Morris

New Jersey:
Richard Stockton
John Witherspoon
Francis Hopkinson
John Hart
Abraham Clark

Column 6

New Hampshire:
Josiah Bartlett
William Whipple

Massachusetts:
Samuel Adams
John Adams
Robert Treat Paine
Elbridge Gerry

Rhode Island:
Stephen Hopkins
William Ellery

Connecticut:
Roger Sherman
Samuel Huntington
William Williams
Oliver Wolcott

New Hampshire:
Matthew Thornton 


Over and "Out" from Portsmouth, VIRGINIA on the 3rd day of July, 2011

July 1, 2011

Time to Lighten up a little...



The past three weeks have been a little depressing... While there has been lots of positive news from the gay community (including the NY Marriage Equality vote and passing), I have been job hunting and trying to deal with other financial issues here on the home-front... There are days I just want to curl up in bed and do absolutely nothing but feel sorry for myself...

This past week I went to my new doctor (who is absolutely wonderful), she listened, commented, and increased the Effexor dose on my prescription (I had been taking it for anxiety already) to try to compensate for the depression I had fallen into. After a couple of days with some funky side effects, I am feeling much better although getting back to work would help a lot more...

I saw the above picture on a FB friend of mine's wall, and it did to me exactly what it says...

Over and "Out" for now, from the beginning of Independence Day Weekend, here in Portsmouth, VA, USA