October 31, 2008


I am confident that all of my friends and family that read "My New Life" have either already voted (in those states that allow it) or have made plans to do so on Tuesday... Yes, that's right, this coming Tuesday is November 4, 2008, election day here in the USA...

This is another reminder:

Thanks for the link Pam!

Over and "Out" from chilly (28 degrees this morning) Chesapeake, VA

October 29, 2008

Write to Marry

Today is National "Write to Marry" day... For more info on posting to your website click HERE.

Over and "Out" just 6 days from the National Elections, from Chesapeake, VA

October 27, 2008

Ron Howard and Friends

I ran accross this over at Gay Political Issues and thought it worth reposting here!

The Fonz thought they said she was loose... hehehe

Over and "Out" 8 days before the elections, from Chesapeake, VA

October 22, 2008

Living near the "Hood"

I really like the place I live and the gal I rent from... It's less than 3 miles to work, close to the expressways that surround the area, 10 minutes from downtown Norfolk or Newport News via those highways and a network of tunnels beneath the rivers. Most of them are referred to with their initials like the MMMBT, CBBT, and HRBT (where BT refers to them as bridge/tunnels), while others are called by their proximity to a city such as the midtown tunnel or the downtown tunnel.

I digress... The location of my place here in Chesapeake is on the fringe of what my boss (a black woman) refers to as "the hood". I have had no real issues since moving here in April, other than periodically having to drive through some areas where large groups of teens are hanging out after dark... That is until last night...

6:20 this morning I wake to a loud knock on my bedroom door. It is my roommate who has been awakened by a neighbor pounding on our front door. She tells me that the neighbor wanted to let us know that someone had vandalized my car... While I don't have my "8NT-STR8" license plates on the new ride, I do have an HRC sticker and a rainbow strip across the rear window and my first thought was that someone bashed my car because I way gay... Not the case...

I am just plain stupid. I left my GPS attached to the windshield when I got home last night. I probably could have put a sign on my car saying "Free Electronics" and been less subtle... Who ever it was smashed the passenger front glass, got into the car, took the GPS, the brand new HD radio I had installed last Thursday, an inexpensive printer a friend had given me, 4 new CD's, a book map of the area, and the contents of my glove compartment.

All I can say is I hope they need all that stuff more than I do...

After calling the Chesapeake police department, waiting for the forensic guy to show up, calling State Farm (who I think will be able to wiggle out of paying me anything as they gave me two claim numbers, one for my auto and another for my homeowners, each have a $500 deductible) to report the loss, locating an auto glass company and arranging to have the window replaced, calling Best Buy to have another radio installed, and cleaning up most of the glass in and around my car... I am exhausted and it's only 11:30!

My roommate was more upset than I was I think... She wanted to know if I wanted her to stick around until the "po-po" came, I told her I was off today and would be just fine... It is only a car, and no one was hurt...

The glass people should be here around noon, and I have an appointment to have the replacement radio installed at 5:00pm at Best Buy. I guess I will have to live without the GPS and go back to maps to find my way around...

Over and "Out" from near the "hood" here in Chesapeake, VA

October 20, 2008

Rachel Maddow my favorite Lesbian

I found a link to this over at "Knotty's" blog, and had to share... I have been listening to Rachel Maddow on XM radio's "Air America" for almost a year...

I am sorry to say I no longer have XM radio, but it's great to know I can catch Ms. Maddow on MSNBC and thier website! I am in love with this Lesbian!

Over and "Out" from politically incorrect, Chesapeake, VA

October 13, 2008

The Great Schlep

I love Sarah Silverman:

The Great Schlep from The Great Schlep on Vimeo.

This may be offensive to some... But coming from Miami, I understand.

Over and "Out" for today, from Chesapeake, VA

October 12, 2008

Person from Holland...

I wish this person from Holland would email or post a comment on here.

I am very intrigued...

Over and "Out" from Chesapeake, VA... USA
(updated 10/13/2008): I stand corrected.. He is from Amsterdam, which is actually in the Netherlands... another blogger : Tipping the Scales

October 11, 2008


I warn you now... this is a longer post than most, but worth the read!

I'm guessing that many of us have wished we were adopted by someone other than the parents that raised us. It would make "coming out" a little easier if we could just expain it away, to genes or some other non-blameable phenomenom. It would ease their (the parents that raised us)minds, certainly if they could explain away the abnormality on someone other than themselves, as well. It could also explain away those differences between our siblings and ourselves, and why we just don't "click" sometimes...

Well I am here to tell you, it makes no difference!

I have always known the man that raised me was not my (nor 2 of my 3 brothers) biological father. He and my Mom were always up front about that. Yet at 22 years old he married her and gained custody of her 3 sons before proceeding to have a 4th (yes he was Catholic). We (my Dad and I) were alway close, until those aweful teenage years when I was sure that I knew much more than this man with two engineering degrees from CAL-POLY did. Fortunately, before he died of cancer in 1979, we had already reconnected and I realized his strange comment/advice to me during those trying teen years: "The older you get, the smarter I'll get" was absolutely true... This man helped design the guidance control system for the Minute Man Missile, of course he was smarter than me... and I got HIS last name!

Fast Forward almost 30 years>>:

Yesterday I met my biological father for (at least in my own memory) the first time... I was, at first hearing of his reappearance to any member of his family for some 40 years, quite interested in meeting him and... well... asking him a few questions. I got to do that and much more.

I woke up yesterday morning knowing I was going to drive up to Williamsburg and have lunch with him, his ladyfriend of several years, and my uncle (his half brother) who I had already met through my (Internet) Auntie, my natural father's sister, who had made contact with me back in the early 90's. I had no real expectations, yet I was feeling somewhat anxious and deep down inside (as we all do) I of course, wanted to be accepted by him without having to "explain" who this 53 year old man has morphed in to.

Since we had already been in contact with each other via email (he has lived in Tasmania and elsewhere in the land "down under" for the past 40 some years) I had already "outed" myself to him, so that was not a real concern and honestly, I was not sure by the time the meeting came to fruition, what it was I expected out of the meeting... Again, no expectations other than acceptance...


The initial meeting/introduction was somewhat "strained", as were the first few hours, including lunch at SEASONS in Colonial Williamsburg's Market Square (I have some friends from the old neighborhood in Toano, that always wanted to "do" Sunday Brunch at Seasons, because they knew the Bloody Marys were "the bomb"), I can now attest to the fact that they most certainly are! After sharing this tip with "bio-pop" he decided to order one as well. It was truly a meal in itself... All four food groups and alcohol... We were definitely making progress and working on a connection!

I think we both loosened up a little and started being more honest with what we really wanted to find out about each other. He didn't give a flying F**K that I was gay. I, on the other hand, had absolutely no qualms nor invasive questions about "why" he left us 50 some odd years earlier... That is between he and my Mom... I have always known that had nothing to do with us (the kids).

I found him extremely fascinating. I found his choice in a partner even more intriguing. His lady friend, I presume, had a lot to do with his quest to reconnect with his family (not only his grown children, but also the brothers and sister he had excommunicated for what ever reasons).

We all spent several hours, first touring the "Historic Triangle" of Williamsburg, Jamestown, and Yorktown... Then touring each others' feelings and thoughts on life in general. I am very glad to know this man. Although I do have an issue calling him "Dad", I don't have a problem calling him "Pop". I hope he understands the significance and accepts the compromise...

I intend on keeping in touch with both of them... I also would really like to visit their world "down under". Who knows... Maybe one day soon, I will be posting from Australia... In the meanwhile, I offer only one suggestion to anyone reading this: We have, what we have, enjoy all the people in your life!

Over and "Out" for today, from home in Chesapeake, VA.

October 7, 2008

Jib Jab and the Debate

You can see by the following how interesting I found tonight's debate:

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Over and "Out" from my Friday night, here in Chesapeake, VA

October 6, 2008

Thursday Night

Over and "Out" from Chesapeake, VA

October 3, 2008

eHarmony? I don't think so....

Check it out!

And what's wrong with these guys?

Over and "Out" from somewhere other than

October 2, 2008

Four Days Left to Register

Did you know that if you don't register to vote in the Commonwealth of Virginia by October 6th, you will not be able to cast your ballot in November!

Check out this cool video too!

Registered, Over, and "Out" from Chesapeake

October 1, 2008

Social and Economic Liberal....

Fellow blogger "Thomas" took this test and posted his results, I thought I'd do the same...

You are a

Social Liberal
(73% permissive)

and an...

Economic Liberal
(21% permissive)

You are best described as a:

Strong Democrat

Link: The Politics Test on Ok Cupid
Also : The OkCupid Dating Persona Test

How do you measure up?

Over and "Out" from Chesapeake, VA