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July 27, 2010

To go, or not to go? To fight, or not to?

I was advised yesterday that my position (at the store I work at) is being eliminated... I met with the company's regional manager and we discussed the options...

Personally, I think this man is a total homophobe and not only racist but sexist as well...  He has offered no help to the two women Store Managers in his region... Ever...  It's almost like he wants them to fail...  I just happen to work for one of them and he knew when he promoted me into this spot, that I was gay...

I looked, not too long ago for a position up in our Philly market, while it was truly not for the promotion, it was more honestly to get myself out of this man's region...   Our company has invested alot of money in introducing the middle management folks (ie: Regional Managers) to this new philosophy of BOP (Business of People). I have read alot of the information, and it's a very positive way to manage and communicate with your people. Unfortunately, my Regional Manager doesn't get it...  Our company has been known for years to manage with an iron fist and threats, but the owners of the company decided that perhaps that was not the best way to keep strong loyal employees...

My dilemma is, do I take the position (tunnels and bridges away) in Newport News, or do I fight this thing for the possible inappropriate (and against our company's policy) discriminatory behavior on the part of our Regional Manager (because there is alot more I am not putting in here)?

Over and "Out" from what could have been a relaxing day off, in Portsmouth, VA

7 comments:

TwoLives said...

I say tunnels and bridges, as painful as that might be.

Remaining in a toxic work environment, especially after you have fought to stay, is probably the greater evil.

Paul Brads said...

A bird in the hand and all that stuff is true. However, you need to document every instance of abuse, sexisism etc. that you can and share it with someone at corporate. Someone needs to welcome your manager to the 21st century! I've been a victim of ageism in interviews, and like a fool I did nothing. Big mistake!

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Chris said...

Good luck with that. Since you don't write any evidence, I'd assume it's purely circumstantial. It's not 100% clear in you writing but sound like, "we don't have a job for you here, but we do have one over here". If the job is a major enough shift, it could be determined to be effective dismissal.

Some points (1) it's always about money and (2) employment issues like this never make it to course.

Obviously a fair bit of emotion for you and not likely a great time to make an emotionless cold business decision. But it would seem, they don't wanna fire you (easy enough to do, we all work at will) so I assume the job offer is either sincere or they want you to quit.

Time for some frank talk, if they want you to quit, they the question is how much will they pay you to quit. The homo card is of interest to HR, you can play it once and you play it while your going out the door to boost how much they pay you.

Try to remove your emotion from the equation, I know it's hard but that's what you've sadly got to do.

Ron Tipton said...

Chris is right. I've been in a similar situations. One I did have a homophobe for a boss. Unless you have witnesses and documented proof, nothing will come of it. Such exercises make better movies than real life.
If you have an issue with your job it is best to bring your concerns directly to your boss now. I've tried that route and it works. At least you know where you stand and can make a decision with those facts. Good luck.

manxxman said...

Tom, my heart goes out to you. It's hard when you feel "discarded".....I believe that Chris's advise is sound.....think about it.

Thomas (Tom) Rimington said...

Thanks for the input all... Yeah, I don't need to get into the dirty laundry here as there are some that read me here that might be offended if I used real names, and specifics...

I think in this economy I need to keep the paychecks coming regardless of the "bullying" way I was offered this "new opportunity"...

seandmc said...

Thanks for visiting my blog. Yes in this economy you just have to hunker down until it picks up again. A paycheck is far better than the soupline! Sean

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